Self -Love

Self-Love
It seems simple enough hearing that word right? or maybe your saying what is it and how do I get it?
You are born a child of God amazing filled with Joy,  love, and no ego you just love, and you are love and than
something happens all your love for yourself becomes doing and being what is expected of you parents making you feel that love is earned by your actions expecting you to be what they want you to be, learning how it feels to have people treat you bad, and learning that instead of following your own love and acceptance of yourself that it somehow feels safer and easier just to allow others to guide you in the life they love for you, as you get hurt and life gets hard the more walls you build up and the more you forget the inner self love you had as a child...

what happens to the child like inner love you once had ? why have you put so many walls around yourself for protection? these are some of the questions you begin to ask yourself ...when one day you look in the mirror and realize everything you have done in your life has been for everyone else, and in the mean time you lost your joy your self love, and you became what everyone else wanted you to be and we wonder why we are overweight, and self sabotaging drowning are sorrows with prescription drugs, drugs, and alcohol just to make the pain of losing yourself go away...so you go to the doctor and tell them you don't know whats wrong with you... Your sad lonely,  depressed , cant find Love, and feel the worst you ever have.  What does the doctor say "take this pill it will numb your feelings even more and than you can live a life with no LOVE No Emotions and No Pain" SAD that's why I'm writing about this..

You see I came from a very dysfunctional alcohol family 2 generations and I never had joy I became a codependent robot,low self esteem,  and never found true love inside myself or for others I had built up so many walls to protect myself ,and became a work alcoholic  with three jobs I ran from love or anything I could so I didn't have to take the risk of others disappointing me again...

this was my changing moment in time to break the generational curse for myself I went to a personal effectiveness training and let go of all the pain all the hurt and began self love again..Not saying it was easy its a daily thing that's when I started my journey of loving myself just as I was created and found people to compliment that love....If your will to do the work within yourself without any medication that's when you will begin to live a life you love and Love yourself First its worth it I promise so today I pray as you read this you felt it and you will begin your journey of self love and share it with other...Leran to listen to your inner voice that will guide you daily into self love and living with passion and purpose...
Love Ursula

VISUALIZE

Hello everyone,
I'm a firm believer in visualizing an image in your mind first in order to stay focused on your intentions whatever they may be this will work for all areas of your life..We all know that we must wake up focused and alert breathing in love and breathing out anger and so on...so whats the next step you say? I believe its setting the tone for success right when you wake up with your first breath...Lay in bed before you rush up and stretch your arms behind your head, and your feet long think about your Focus for the day and than Visualize an Image in your mind of what you want most to create for the day..
My Images are always smiles, laughter, joy as I get my kids up and they get ready for school and than I see laughter and joy on there faces as I drive them to School than I see myself in workout clothes and Images in my mind of what I'm creating daily by doing workouts a clearer mind and healthier body... I see myself in great dresses, and being a great role model for my kids, I see a Happy Husband that cant keep his hands off me because of my daily choices, and I see LOVE...

So you see what you Focus on and Visualize before you even get out of bed is what you end up creating before you even put your feet on the ground..I use to think this kind of stuff was crazy until I did it, and now I will not ever live any other way, because it really works and my family life is so peaceful now.  I as a Wife and mom set the tone for how smooth my family life goes...You see its never about the other person its about you praying and visualizing the life you want and create it daily little baby steps in everything you do and say become Huge, and continue to grow into amazing great visual Images of a happy peaceful healthy life so today as your reading this, and maybe your wondering why someone else is always happy, and your always miserable take a look at you and fix what you need to fix inside yourself ...visualizing amazing Images of a happy peaceful life and you can even go as far as cutting pictures out of books and magazines and putting then on a mirror or any place that will keep you focused, and happy as you see them daily.. Always add as you get more inspired ..Maybe that bikini body that you thought you would never get back because you gained all the weight after kids and stress of life..I invite you to let go of stress and unforgiveness and say hello to Healthy happy visual Images that you have early in the morning... Raise the people up in your life higher in your mind and than plant the seeds daily...
Cheers to your New happy amazing life that you get to create daily
Love Ursula

FOCUS

I decided to write today about Focus,
Focusing on whatever you say you want in life is huge, and how you apply your focus daily is how you become who you want to be the first step is to decide what it is you say you want in your life, is it to be healthy? happy?rich? married? successful in what area of your life? whats your passion? your dream for your life?
These are some questions you can ask yourself, and than its your job to write it down everyday I invite you to choose one thing as to not overwhelm yourself, and focus on the one thing all day... Google it learn everything you can about that one thing that's going to improve your life...than as you research it and Focus on it what action steps is it going to take to stay focused on that daily, and as you master each new thing your focused on, keep that daily in your life, and begin to add new great focuses that can better your life, and those around you, its like daily replacing one bad habit with one great focus, and the more you do this the more you will see that your focus is what you create in your life...
Focus is what keeps you excited and wanting more greatness in your life if we wake up with no focus we guess what do nothing and wonder why we keep failing on the things we say we want..Make your focus daily your survival tactic on creating and doing more of what you love and making what is important to you come alive..you have to look inside you to do this no one can ever do this for you its up to you..

For me my morning focus is Inspiration,I inspire because when I inspire others I'm always more focused and better productive, because I do, also I focus on making my kids smile while I drive them to school we tell jokes laugh and act silly and always say I love you kids as I drop them off..making my marriage stronger daily is also my focus..

I also stay focused on my me time early in the morning after taking my kids to school I go to my room and put on my cute workout clothes that I have collected in the last 2 years because of my first focus to join beachbody 2 years ago I'm still focused today, and I stay that way because of how I feel and how great it is for maintenance on my daily health...Than of course my focus after I sweat my fat away is my favorite steam shower or Hot Epsom salt bath for sore muscles...So that s an example of what you must do in your own life to create a life of health and well being and of course a job you love is a great focus as well...You , right where you are have the ability to set a great daily FOCUS for yourself and make it a habit that is good for you and before you know it your on your way to a successful life you will love, so my tip for today is stay focused daily and add more each day...share any comments or ideas that have been working for you thus far..
Love Ursula

The voice that wakes me up

WOW Its been a really long time since I have wrote in my blog do I even remember how? I am the type of person that awakes in my bed in the morning with flooding thoughts of everything I want to do for success in a day, I would explain it as a  to do list for my success in my head, and it wakes me up so this morning at 5:00 am my to do list in my head said to me" its time to write your blog again" and I said to my self does anybody even care what I have to say?  It  got louder in my head< and said "its part of your journey and healing", so here I am again taking you all on my journey of rediscovery... My life is my love, and I will nurture it just as I do every relationship I care about...

HERE GOES... I'm what you would call a fitness Freak now at 43 because its the only thing that keeps me feeling amazing and its something I can control even when everything around me becomes crazy its something  that keeps me fit healthy and alive I believe my fountain of youth secret,and keeps my spirit happy... You see you cant control anyone else all you can do is pray for them guide and lead by example , This has been my emotional missing link for years and just now realized it in my forty's....

For years because I never had any power all my power was taken away from me and I never knew who I was or even what I wanted to do I allowed others to stop me from being who I was created to be being and following someone else s life instead of finding your own passion and love for life will eventually destroy you, and your spirit and you will become the person with the mask that smiles on the outside, but feels dead on the inside..How do you reclaim you when you feel so bad about yourself and so dead? I had no Idea for me that it was going to be through a healthy lifestyle and becoming what some call me as obsessed gym freak...You see we all need to discover our own worth and destiny, and as long as your Alive you need to follow the voice inside your head that wants to guide you to your purpose and your passion we all are different and need different things to make us happy, and Mine wakes me up now with a huge smile on my face because you see my life is my love and when I'm following the path that was designed for me even though I feel in preparation for something Big in the future I'm learning to embrace this voice today that said get up and write your Blog...so today I thank you all for taking the time to read this and there will be many more blogs to come follow your voice and live a life you love even if no one understands You, if it brings you a smile and peace in your heart go for it and never ever look back always keep your chin up and go for more day by day..
Ursula Sward