Discovering how much you change over the years

I was thinking about my life today as I do daily and I was looking at my 20s and that for me was all about finding my Dream man to marry and have a family with for me the most important part of my twenties was to find a gorgeous man inside and out and start a family.   I  achieved that had three beautiful kids two boys and a girl and than it was surviving that 2 yrs apart each child .and anytime you put two people together in marriage and say now get along and bring in children it does take a lot of work I would say in a marriage the first 5 years are the hardest if you can make that you may have a chance, and as I say That I'm thinking every year is the hardest in a marriage, because it takes daily work to keep it Alive and thriving and everything gets boring after so long so its your job to both work really hard daily...

Thirties were finding a job that I could do to assist with money while the kids were in School So I became a School bus Driver and always made sure that my family and kids came before my job and my husband and I always made sure we had time for each other even if it was sneaking away any chance we could my husband new that he must stay connected to me first, because after all I was there before the kids he always worked a lot as men do with family's it takes a lot of money but one thing I can say about my husband is he always made time for me, and I have always been his priority ..I'm more of a loner than he is so that part has been a big adjustment for me ..

Forties for me now that I have teens is been a huge adjustment because I have went through a life process that has forever changed me being a breast cancer Survivor and being as lucky as I am to have found it so early and came out of it even better than I was before has made me a Better more grateful patient loving person. I see my life now in a whole new way I no longer worry about anything any one my say.. I think about what comes from my heart, and  I do it at that moment, and I became a beachbody coach in my forties someone asked me how do you balance married life with your hobbies and passion and I have to say for me I stopped asking for my husbands approval on everything I do and I started asking myself for what I really wanted and started living my life for me for the first time ever I have to say the Forty's so far are my favorite because I'm braver, stronger, more confident than I have ever been and I no longer allow anyone including my husband to hold me back from having all my Dreams. I know now that in order to be amazingly happy you must first be a whole person, and you can be and still be married ..Its a daily commitment to yourself to do everything in your power to walk and talk in daily gratitude forget the bad and move to the greatness that you get to create daily and stop asking for approval from anyone other than God and YOU...Now my husband loves me even though he does not  understand why I do what I do or why I need different things than he can give me. I need more and so I go after what I need daily to feed my soul and spirit and I don't have to share that part of my life with him ...He gives me what he can and I give myself everything else ...Nobody can make you 100% happy you must first seek that for yourself and than everything else in your life balances out...I pray that my story will always assist in someway to spark a great more loving life in all of you as well..Please feel free if there is any topic you want me to write about I will..

do you wanna know a secret the more you become confident, and whole the sexier you become now that I workout daily and do what I need to do to follow my Dreams and passion the sexier I become to my husband, so therefore who calls me daily for sexy talk YES my husband ..yes we spice it up, and yes he still adores me and I do him wish he would focus more on his sexy spicy side but still after 18 years a daily progress we both are ...Love this life we live, and bring out your sexy, sassy side as much as you can, it does have a way of making everything better remember lady's a way to a mans heart is loyalty, sex and Food and looking your Best because they are very Visual creators, and men you must be patient, loving, strong,honest,amazing heart as well as your looks, and sexy and a great provider...
Peace and Love Always ,Ursula

transformation

I'm happy to report its been a year and many months now since I decided to become a Beachbody coach. I never started with the intention to get rich from it I started with the intention to get me back the part I lost back with accountability all over the world and to force myself daily to become the product of the product and I knew that if it worked for me well than anyone could do this program, and be successful I never put myself out there and speak about something that I have not tested first with myself, and I would never tell someone to do or try something unless Ive tested it first...so for me I have had a blast transforming me daily, and I just cant stay quit about how much my life has changed, and everything I have discovered about myself in the process...I feel like Ive been on the Biggest Loser show, because I have taped all my workouts, and journey on YouTube and I love sharing my story with all, and I have allowed my life to help so many people along the way, for me its not about money I don't send people emails saying you need to join Beachbody and bugging people I simply just share my life story daily, and create friendships...

I only want people to join my team that are serious about changing there life as I have I don't want anyone that doesn't want to give it there all. I look at my team as we are here to stay fit 4 life champions, and when the going gets ruff and tired as it does to get back up and keep going that's what Ive done and that's the type of people I'm looking for more people like me to join my team, so Ive always known that if I can do it anyone can and there has been many days that I had to be my own cheerleader to pick myself up when I'm sore and keep going,,knowing the end result will be worth it no matter how long it took to get there..

Ive created this new life I love and I'm doing things Ive never done before daily. I follow my heart and passion and wherever that leads I make a video about it, and I continue to search for people like me with warrior spirits that will fight for there life's back and reclaim there energy and vitality..That's whats the most import thing to me its never been about the money its about helping myself before I can help anyone else, and wherever that leads I'm extremely blessed and grateful daily to be doing what I love every single day becoming the inspiration and role model to my family and friends..what a Gift I gave to myself..

my prayers will always go out to all of you for strength and courage to get you through this life you can love. I'm turning a hobby that I love into a Business and that's the greatest reward.
Peace and Love Always, Ursula

follow your heart that leads to passion

I'm so Blessed this is how I feel everyday. I wake up and I'm Alive and healthy and have a voice to keep inspiring with and a strong body to workout, and do everything I need to taking care of my family and all that I'm blessed enough to get to do in a day..Looking back at my life I'm the luckiest I feel Ive ever been, because I finally developed the courage to go after my Dreams, and make them happen I'm doing things Ive never Dreamed I would ever do, and I'm loving every second of it..something magic happens in your life when you no longer worry about what others may think of you if you step out of your comfort zone, and live your life with passion and zest...

My whole life I allowed others to be my voice and to tell me how I should live my life and I was always sad because of this, and never new my value or Worth because of this it has only been in my 40 s where I finally felt that I might die if I did not make a change and start owning my power that was trapped inside for so long not having a voice will kill you and trying to please everyone else except yourself will kill you as well ..

Today I want to share with you that the most important thing you can do for yourself right now today is allow your inner thoughts and voice to come out and don't care who cares the minute I allowed myself to do this is when I became a whole person and I had to make that choice  if everyone in my family hated me well than its still worth it, and if my husband cant handle all of me than its still worth it, and if someone does not love all of you than they don't deserve you ..you have to make the choice  that its better to be alone than to continue to die a slow death not being you..God puts desires and passion in your  heart for a reason, so that you will follow them and let him be the guide not people, they don't know what you need unless you tell them, and show them..So today I want to encourage you to start living a life you love no matter what that is, do you and allow your inner voice to be your tour guide..Now because I do this I love it I'm stepping out and living a life I love and bringing all of you with me through YouTube I'm set free, and I want you all to be as well..so take a deep breath and pray for the strength and courage to set yourself free to fly into a life you love as well..
Peace and Love Always, Ursula
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Push yourself out of your comfort zone daily

Beautiful New week to be grateful for even though everything is not perfect it is what it is and you get what you focus on so focus on more love and gratitude in order to get more back..I'm learning this more and more each and everyday in my life and am what I focus on and think about most in my life and for me this applies so great in my life to keep me uplifted and positive. I stopped worrying about what others do and do me and every time I do me and focus on gratitude and figure out a way to put more of that great attitude out into the world the greater more abundant life keeps getting for me..

I made a decision to open up my life to the world to make videos to get out of my comfort zone and to show everyone how I'm getting back in shape in my 40s it was not an easy choice, and I did not ask anyone if they thought it was a good idea... I knew I needed it in order to stay accountable to someone more than my family I needed the support, so I felt if I needed it that maybe just maybe there would be someone out there I could help in the process to set myself free and others along the way..

I have always believed that I have a gift to touch other peoples life in a honest loving way and to show you all that I'm human just like you and We all have trials and tribulations we just need to learn to deal with them through love and gratitude and realize we were created for greatness and love and share that love with the world...so I believe that's what I'm doing with my YouTube channel I'm sharing my at home videos with all of you so that maybe I can assist in you realising that you can get in shape at home too, any age any size and body type, that if its possible for me than its possible for you and I'm having a blast doing it.  I would of never guessed that in a million years that I would be doing this,so my advice to you is push yourself out of your comfort zone daily and take risks in your life and make a no fail plan of action for yourself as to make this a Fit 4 life plan for you not just a fad or a diet but something you focus on daily I'm always here for you please follow this blog and send comments and I would be honored to assist in anyway I can..
Peace and Love Always, Ursula
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set yourself free and be you

Good Morning,
I'm a morning person so I'm up and at it at 4:00 getting my husband off to work and than I lay down for about 15 Min's and my mind is already planning out the day I'm so programed now on the life that makes me feel the best that my mind always jumps ahead and takes the lead while I'm laying down in the morning always thinking of new ideas to write about and always thinking of my workouts and getting the kids off to School this is how I live everyday planing out each day for success..

So when I hear people say there bored or that there life is boring I have to say that's your fault boring people get bored. I make my life in such a away even though its mostly the same thing each week cleaning cooking laundry, I put in these great alone times for me in my schedule as to take care of me and not get bored, because what I have found if you start writing out a successful plan of action for yourself making sure you put your hour at the top of your list well than everything else always gets done, because you have the energy to do it and your happier while you do it even if its just cleaning the house like us moms and dads do...

I find that everything just gets better and that's why I keep doing it not only am I transforming my body I'm transforming ever area in my life and I find because workouts are a huge stress reliever I'm such a happy person now not much brings me down, and when life gets crazy as it does I can handle it more with Grace if I would of known all the great side effects by taking one hour a day for me I would have never ever stopped this way of life this Is why I talk about it so much, because it changes your life not only physical but mental well being is so much greater like now my husband thinks I'm living in fairy tail lane because the things I use to get mad at before and focus on I don't... I do me and that's what makes me happy everyday I don't think about what I'm going to do and process it and wonder what people might think about my lifestyle. I just follow my heart and passion and the rest follows into the greatest life ever its never about the other people in your life making everyone else happy that will never happen and not everyone will agree with you or even like you so do yourself a favor set yourself free from everyone Else's approval and do you and create a healthy balance in your life today that's what its all about you don't have to be a body builder just get moving something is better than nothing...Never expect someone else to make you happy make yourself happy..

Peace and Love Always, Ursula

Find One hour a day for you

Busy weekend it was, got great time with my middle son on Saturday with his hair cut, and out to lunch than on Sunday we tackled the New Counter tops for the Kitchen when you buy an older home there is always repairs and remodeling to do, and we do the work ourselves to save on the labor costs so there is always lots of weekend remodeling projects going on at my home..

I love to stay busy I much prefer weekends like that than just sitting in front of the TV like my husband likes to do..now that I have changed my life, and became healthier and fit I prefer to be doing things... plus my mind never shuts off its always thinking like most of us woman do...Always so much to do it seems to run a home. 

I have been working so hard on me in my 40s Ive noticed even more than any other age it seems something happens in your 40s at least it did for me, to where I realized I was going to have to get my life back on track before it was to late I felt like I had hit 41 and just could not burn the fat on my body as fast as before and realized if I did not get myself in check I would end up like my mom quicker than sooner my mom never ever exercised a day in her life, and still does not to this day, and I can see her health declining faster because of the lifestyle choices she has made and I realized having teenagers, and not feeling good and no energy just was not going to work for me any longer, so I decided I better get off my butt do some research and do this for me so that I could live the rest of my years great and just see if I could make my 40s fabulous, and now in three months I'm going to be 43 I have never ever hid my age I'm proud of my age and intend to keep up on this fit four life journey not because I didn't love myself fat before, but because I decided that in order to be Greater and healthier I must get fit to keep up with my kids and to keep my husband interested even more...

I acceded my goals with my workouts, and have continued to love this new lifestyle, because when you feel the best and happiest you have ever been its worth it and now I cant imagine living any other way I feel I have found the fountain of youth key with everything I'm doing for my body mind and spirit now and so therefore that's why I continue to share with all of you Love yourself fat or Fit, but Fit is really where you began to start living a life you love because you wake up feeling so great with so much energy daily that you began to really live and really love and this is why I do this fit 4 life lifestyle because It gave me back to me and now I do it all and feel fabulous doing it and now Im a role model for my kids and they take care of themselves because of it my daughter runs laps around the pool and does workout videos with me and my oldest son rides his bike everywhere and swears its given him great abs because of it and my middle son does a lot of walking , swimming so it does rub off on your family...My kids are my joy and I get to run them all around and shop and do what they do and have the energy to be present always that's living the greatest way to live ,make time for you I always say find a hour a day just for you and put amazing healthy food in your body and live a life you love and share it with all...

Peace and Love Always Ursula

follow your passion

OK so I woke up thinking about why I'm so excited still about my beachbody lifestyle changes I keep making and I was remembering what gave me Joy as a child, and a teenager going through hard family times growing up with alcoholic parents and grandparents you learn to go into survival mode to save yourself, so for me it was always praying to God for a better greater life, and it was always Music that took me away to another world through dancing I can remember the family all leaving, and I would turn the music so loud throughout the house and dance all through the house like flash dance not only was it a great workout it relieved  my stress and tension from the world of troubles...

after getting married and having baby's I forget about dance for awhile and forgot what I Love as we do after having a family and getting into survival mode raising kids, then I kinda lost myself, and what I love for awhile doing all for others and forgetting me trying to be the best wife and mother I could be... being a sober loving mother striving for the opposite as I grew up. and then I would workout at home and do my best to stay motivated but never ever loved it and had no one around me to be accountable to so I always failed and never took my life seriously just always doing for others story of my life and than one day in my 40s I realized WOW I saw a picture of me and didn't think I was that Big and it scared the shit out of me because I now realized I was in my 40s and if I do not get my life back on track I just may stay fat forever and I didn't feel like I was in my 40s and sure didn't want to look like it or give up on me, because I wanted more for me I wanted to be a role model for my children and have my husband be proud to say to people this is my wife and still adore me as he once did before I lost myself...

So I did the only thing I could do is join Beachbody as a coach because I needed the accountability so desperately even though it was the scariest thing Ive ever done I even hated the name Beachbody because when your overweight you say to yourself yeah right like I could ever have a beachbody only in my dreams, so I took my Dreams as I did dancing through my house as a teen and I decided I'm gonna give it a try and I will either sink or swim and I love to swim so I'm taking you all with me on YouTube and we are all going to do this fit 4 life journey together and Ive been stretching myself out of my comfort zone every since, so the reason I'm telling you my story today is to Please never give up on you, you deserve to be healthy, and fit and to follow your passion and now today I'm healthier fitter and dancing again thank you God Im Alive and also survived Cancer I'm a fighter a warrior, and only getting better day by day I'm alive and I mean REALLY ALIVE and Living a Life I'm so very Proud of 42 and it just keeps getting Better...

Peace and Love Always, Ursula 

make a No fail Plan of Action each week

I'm learning the older I get the more vital it is that I focus on me more... I know you may say how can I do that when I'm so busy working and being a taxi service whatever your life looks like I know that we all are way to busy, and overworked and sometimes not enough sleep..So what if you woke up with a plan of ACTION that you write out just like you write the kids schedule, and the errands for the week and the needs of others always before yours..like most of us moms do...

What if you sat down in the morning looked at your calender for the week and took out the things that are not benefiting you that your doing for someone else lets say and replace One hour a day just for YOU...

Could you see that if you do this for yourself pencil in one hour a day of meditation and workouts that life just may get easier, and you just might get happier and healthy at the same time... workouts are HUGE STRESS Relievers you get to take out all your aggression out at the Gym, and leave it there along with extra fat burned..

Do realize how long its taken me to realize I deserve to do this for myself and do you realize how Grateful I am Because I make a No fail plan of action for me each week, and guess what you can have it all you just have to write it all out and get rid of the bad unhealthy habits to make room for the great healthy ones..

I've finally figuring it out and that's why I keep sharing with all of you in hopes that my wisdom will rub off on you. I have three teens one is in drivers training, at night the other in softball the other getting his braces on all evening stuff, so If I don't get my workout done in the morning after I take my kids to School its just not gonna happen And I value me more than that now so I'm always going to make time for me in the mornings and when my family's home on long weekends I workout in my Home Gym... wow that is amazing to make a no fail plan of action daily..Set yourself free to fly today by doing great things for you and I promise the results will keep you making it happen more and more..Success always starts by creating a Better You daily..SELFISH EQUALS SELF CARE
Peace and Love always, Ursula

Design your Life the way you want

You have the right to follow your passion and figure out your purpose, If you haven't noticed we are all good at different things and thank God for that..Why not instead of fighting what your good at why not embrace it and allow more to flow..how would it be to be able to wake up daily and focus on all that you love and invite many to join this way of life instead of waking up daily hating what you do...

The greatest gift you can give yourself is to set yourself free to fly into a life and a purpose that's best for you, the way that God intended it to be in the first place how many of us take the time to allow are inner voice to be are guide instead of following someone Else's path why not find a quiet place and pray for are own guidance and strength..

Well I'm 42 and I'm finally learning how to follow my passion and purpose and to figure out what I'm good at and go with it..To many years of my life were wasted following other peoples Dreams and passions and now 40s for me are like the beginning of me... life rediscovery years for me..

I listened and try ed to fix everyone in my life for years alcoholics parents, grandparents and Husband that loves to drink as well, and now Its about Me... being the best me that I can create daily Loving my kids and giving them the healthy role model mom that they deserve that will instill great healthy values, and goals into there life. I strove to be the opposite of my family now its time to make the greater change for myself, and get my healthy life on track and bring many with me that's my passion I finally figured out what puts a smile on my face everyday, and its not ever going to come from another person it must come from you First..Too many years were wasted afraid to do what I love, because other people said I didn't need that... well guess what I'm finally getting Smart and I'm doing what I Love and feel the best I have ever felt in my life so either the people in my life will except all of me, or they will have to leave, because I'm not sacrificing ME any longer I'm doing Me all of me and Yes if I show Progress pictures of me in my sports bra or bikini and it offends any of YOU than rather than being a hater just delete me... I realize not everyone is into fitness and I realize" I'm over the top " I'm a ALL OR NOTHING GIRL,but I'm only getting started so if my personality is to BIG for You Unfriend me that's your right and I understand that's part of loving yourself...So for me I'm just getting started on this fit 4 life journey love me or hate me I'm here to stay..
Peace and Love Always Ursula